Out of this group, I'm the only one who works full time. Back when our babies were babies and we first met, I was the only one who worked at all and I worked full time then too. I've always had to work because in our household, I'm the primary earner. Which means of course, my partner spends a lot more time with the kids than a lot of my friends' partners do. I don't think it's a bad thing, but whatever I do, there's a lot of guilt involved.
I'd have made a great Catholic!
If I'm at work, I'm guilty about not being with the kids. If I'm with the kids, I'm guilty of neglecting my business. If I'm writing, I'm guilty of ignoring them both. If I'm not writing, I'm guilty about not doing that.
I don't think living in a constant state of guilt is the best way to be. I don't think my kids even notice when I'm not around. They're happy and when we do spend time together, we have fun... Mostly.
But it's hard not to reflect on parenting choices and obsess about them. Being a mother is hard and there's no map or how-to-guide. Every child is different and needs different things. What worked with my oldest, isn't working with the younger one. and it's hard to figure out what needs to change. They have such different personalities and approaches to life...
How do you manage your parenting? Do you feel like you know what you're doing?